In the evening, when I find myself finally able to relax, my mind wanders through a review of the day. As long as I have managed to squeeze in some real quality time with my kids, my day feels worthwhile. But what is quality time?
Although I am a stay-at-home mom and I spend all day everyday with my kids, a lot of the day feels rushed, stressful, sometimes frustrating, and even exhausting at times. We've managed to develop a fairly efficient routine, mind you there are always exceptions popping up. Between breakfast and nap time, and lunch and nap time, and cooking dinner and cleanup, and bathing and bed, how much room is left in the day?
Believe it or not there are plenty of free moments. Well, maybe not plenty, but there are moments. Even if I have to squeeze in some quality time with one kid while the other kid is sleeping, which is usually the case (my youngest gets up one to two hours before my other daughter so that's her mommy and me time, and then she naps three hours later and my oldest daughter has her mommy and me time), it works.
For me, quality time is sitting down and doing some puzzles or crafts, reading some books, playing with toys, colouring, you name it. As long as my daughter (or daughters) are together and enjoying each other's company, and communicating, that's real quality.
Now, finding quality time for myself... that's a whole other situation and one that I have yet to conquer. Mind you I still manage to squeeze in some hours of me time, late in the evening. And even though I sacrifice sleep to do so, it's still quality me time.